Saturday, September 12, 2009

What a Godly Man Should Look Like by Kathy Gruben- Please Read!

A mother writes her thoughts on godly young men...sons.

What a Godly Man Should Look Like

by Kathy Gruben

"I would use these words to describe this wonderful man of virtue....

Noble, chivalrous, courageous, fun, true, wise, loyal, passionate, protector, gentle, humble, strong, self-sacrificial, adventurous, patient, loving, kind, serving, intelligent, polite, family centered, lover of truth, steeped in the Word of God, prayerful and hospitable.

These are not the kind of guys that you always notice first in a crowd. But they are the ones that you admire most once you do notice them. They are the ones who go to the person sitting on the side of the church looking left out, and shake hands with a smile. They are the ones that you will find at home instead of in youth group. You will see them sitting with their folks rather than passing notes in the back of church with their friends. You will find them helping in the kitchen or taking out the trash, walking the ladies to their cars and carrying diaper bags even if they don't belong to them.

You'll find them with other guys, in deep discussions about theology, worldview philosophies, politics, and books rather than just talking about the latest football games, computer games and girls. Yet, they can converse on these topics too when needed :- ) . These are the guys who walk on the outside of the sidewalk to protect the lady whom they might be with, and are always watching for ways to take care of her as a sister. When looking for a mate, they want the one who is at home (or wants to be) and "hangs out" with her mom and siblings more than her buddies.

They love a good time, but it usually entails sword fighting, ultimate Frisbee, board games, hiking, touch football, night tag, water balloon fights and G rated movies rather than sports teams, dancing at the bar or movies with violence and sex-who cares if they are in their 20's! A big night on the town includes taking the siblings to the grocery store, the library or out for miniature golf. They are passionate about the things of God and they do not bend on their convictions, no matter what others may say or do. They don't care that some might see them as "goody-goody" or strange for not dating or for spending so much time with their family-they are proud of it!

You might see them on the road at 6:30am rushing to get to a 7:00am catechism class, even though no one is making him go. You will find them in family worship, singing or playing the piano, teaching God's word to his family or sitting at his fathers feet. They write marvelous heart felt letters of encouragement when needed and yet might not say too much by way of personal stuff to many. They keep confidences. You might easily see him with a crowd of little ones about him as he helps to teach them something or play with them. He will watch an old movie and play cards with his siblings or parents ,even when he would rather be playing "Stronghold Crusader" on his laptop.

He would give up his very life for his savior, his ideals and his family. He makes ice cream floats of all kinds-even strange concoctions- and gives his mom tea in bed. He bakes birthday cakes for his friends with his sister's recipes. He learns follow a recipe and make things in the crock-pot because he wants to be able to at least take care of his wife when the baby comes. You are likely to find him under a car, on top of a roof, mowing a lawn, mending the fence, writing a book, working the night shift to help the family-anywhere that will require hard work, initiative and drive-but not for his own sake.

They are so admired and dearly loved by their families because they are an indispensable source of joy and encouragement, strength of character and servitude. They are never truly independent, because they have come to that wonderful place in the Christian life where they realize, that they must be dependent on God alone in His sovereignty, and the people that He has placed in his life.

Therefore, he is a true man's man. A giant. One to look up to. A hero. A leader among his peers. Strong, steady, dependable and one that you could place your life and the lives of your children into his capable and loving hands-with no regrets or fears."

Wasn't that so inspiring? That is definitely what I want my Prince Charming to be like. He has some BIG shoes to fill, though. I mean between my list, and my mom and dad's list of qualifications. One word: Wow. Okay, it's not that bad, but I do think I better be praying for him right now. Let us all be praying for our future husbands to grow in their walk with the Lord, and to help them to have hearts after God's own heart. Have a wonderful weekend everyone and thank you for reading Practically Pink.

Many Blessings,


  1. Wow, isnt that the guy all Christian girls wish to marry!

  2. Yes, definitely a one in a million guy! :D Those kind of godly young men are hard to find, just as a godly young woman is hard to find. We should all be praying that if the Lord has it in His plans for us to marry, that it will be to a young man such as the one described above! :)

    Thank you for sharing that Emily!

  3. Emily I absolutely enjoy reading your blog! That is what I want my future husband to be like too. Especially giving up his very life for his savior!

    Be blessed,

  4. Emily,
    What a wonderful description of a godly man! It is great that you want your future husband to have some (if not all) of these qualities...never compromise your standards! Be set apart!

    By the way, have you ever read the book "Authentic Beauty" by Leslie Ludy?? It is still one of my favorite books and one I read when I was your age. You should check it out. :)

  5. That was very inspiring Emily, Thank you!
    I guess we'd better start praying eh?!


  6. Thank you ladies for your comments! Lets be praying for our future husbands. :)

  7. Aww! That is so the kind of person I would like to marry! GREAT post!

  8. Ooh! This describes the man of my dreams like nothing else! Especially the part about carrying someone else's diaper bag... it seems to me like most young men are afraid of babies and won't have anything to do with them. Whenever I see a young guy at church holding a baby, or taking the hand of a little neice/nephew/sibling, it stops me right in my tracks. Yes, I want someone who is ready to take responsibility head-on.

  9. Emily,
    Thanks for the comment on my old East Coast vaction blog! I was worried that you hadn't found my current blog until I noticed that you followed One Bright Corner--I'm honored!
    As for the picture on, we were actually in Jamestown for the Quadricentennial celebration sponsored by Vision Forum. It's quite the story, so you might want to further peruse the blog if you want all the details, but we participated in a nationwide treasure hunt for 400 gold coins which culminated in us and 99 other families successfuly passing elimination and going to Jamestown to hunt for the gold!
    Thanks for introducing yourself, and I look forward to looking through your blog.


  10. What a great post. Thanks for following my blog.

  11. Hello Emily!

    I just found your blog, and it is wonderful! I'd like to get to know you better. I really agree with the description of a godly man - and praying I find one someday!!

    Have a blessed day!

  12. Oh yes, one more thing. I noticed on your sidebar that you read MckMama's blog! I do as well! I thought I was just about the only 15 year old who did -- My mom think's it's odd. Good to find someone else!

  13. Very cool...

    Oh wait, i have to go and get into some deep discussions about theology, worldview philosophies, politics, and books right now...

    naw, just kidding. :)


  14. Hey, Emily!
    Just wanted to let you know that I awarded you on my blog! ~Abi

  15. Hey! I got this blog from a friend of mine... and wow. I can relate in so many ways. I really enjoy reading your posts; and I agree with the above comments, this is every girls dream. No, it's what I'm expecting, in some form or another. :) I write letters to my future husband also. :P God Bless you as you write, and seek his face.

  16. Great post Emily! Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed catching up on my reading on your blog. Great job Em! I love you! <3


    Your sister ~Katie