Many young people ponder a lot on the subject of marriage and courtship, so I thought that writing on the topic might be a way to encourage others while we wait for God's perfect timing for our lives.
We need to remember that it is God who decides who our future spouse is going to be, when we will meet, where it will happen, and how we meet. As a single young woman, I truly do understand how it feels when we think about meeting the "the right guy" someday. We all get tired of waiting, but when the question whether God is remembering us and whether he will provide us with the right person to marry someday comes into our head, we need to stop, re-focus on the life around us, and trust God that He will bring our future husband, (or wife) into our life at the right time- when we are both ready.
I know that I have still have a few years before even considering getting married, but sometimes others may act hastily and take matters into our own hands. I have to remember that God is love and He created love in the first place. He also created marriage and He should be the one who decides who we marry, when we marry, or if we marry.
I want to encourage all of you with examples from the Bible. I found beautiful love stories in the Bible and I think we all can learn from their stories...
1. God knows when we are lonely in this world. ""And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." ~Genesis 2:18
2. God has already chosen the one for us before we even lay eyes on them.
Abraham's servant sought out the Lord in prayer to guide him to the right woman to marry Isaac. God brought Rebekah unto the servant and she accepted the servant's request for her to follow him and marry his master. Isaac also allowed the Lord to bring him the right woman. Both of them had strong faith in the Lord and they hadn't even met each other yet! When they did meet, he loved her. She was definitely the right choice for him.
3. We need to be spiritually prepared, concerned for others and focused on God first before he brings the right one along.
Ruth was a widow and had such love and care for her mother in law that she followed her to a strange land. Ruth had her mind on the affairs of others. Ruth met Boaz and they both were spiritually ready. They had matured in their faith with the Lord and were spiritually prepared for a marriage. Ruth was very virtuous. They also had a pure courtship that was undefiled. God blessed their union as man and wife too.
4. Sometimes we have to wait for our mate for awhile, and sometimes it may be different than what we expect.
Jacob fell in love with Rachel immediately when he laid eyes on her. He worked for her father in exchange for her hand in marriage and offered seven years of service. He was actually willing to wait a long time to become her husband. Waiting and getting to know each other is a wise idea, because you don't want to jump into a marriage too quickly.
5. Trust in God's will for your life.
Mary was a handmaiden of the Lord and she was very a very godly young woman. She mediated on God and stored these things in her heart. When God called her to be the mother of the Savior, it almost made Joseph leave her! Can you imagine all the dangers of stoning and persecution in her village for being found pregnant before marriage? God wanted Mary and Joseph to be together and be a part of God's great plan for the world. Mary trusted in God and Joseph came to trust Mary and the Lord.
God has already chosen the the right person for you. Even before you were born, He had chosen your future spouse. It's just a matter of timing for you both to meet. When it's in His time, he makes all things beautiful. We're to make good use of this time as we are single, so that we will be spiritually ready for marriage. Marriage is a huge responsibility and too many marriages nowadays have fallen apart. God designed a spiritual purpose for a husband and a wife to fulfill each other's needs and create a family. Let us grow in this area and be ready when God brings him in your life.
I hope this has been an encouragement to you, and please remember that you are not alone! God always has time for you and He is always there to listen to your thoughts and dreams as you wait patiently on Him.